Episode 3 - Healing & Wisdom Through the Grieving Process

The Complicated Heart Podcast releases every Tuesday!

In today’s podcast, listen in as counselor Melanie Harding invites to understand the grieving process more fully and how we can find healing and wisdom through it.

(Listen to Episode 1 HERE and Episode 2 HERE)

Show Notes


How Melanie helped me with my anxiety recently [4:05]

What is grief? [6:32]

Why is it so hard for so many of us to face reality? [9:30]

How do we know if we’ve made anxiety our God? [13:27]

Why is it important to mourn our losses? [15:45]

The question we ask every day, whether we know we do or not [24:33]

Where is the goodness of God when terrible things happen? [38:25]

What happens when we don’t grief? [43:16]

Unresolved Childhood Pain [45:45]

How to grief and mourn a loss. [48:15]

Books Mentioned:

Experiencing God Bible Study by Henry & Richard Blackaby

Where is God When it Hurts? by Philip Yancey

Key Scriptures:

"Can a mother forget the baby at her breast and have no compassion on the child she has borne? Though she may forget, I will not forget you!” Isaiah 49:15

“And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.” Romans 8:28


“Grief is the process of letting go of our expectations.” [7:00]

“Grief is the process of facing reality.” [9:06]

“Our dreams are not necessarily Gods dreams for us.” [10:52]

“When we make our dreams into gods, we get into trouble.” [11:26]

“The adventure is to look with anticipation for where God is taking us, even it if takes us away from what we thought our dream would look like. That God’s goodness will lead us into something even better, then when we first thought.” [11:40]

“In Gods economy, grieving leads to wisdom.” [19:31]

“When you can say, “my identity is unchanging, because of who God has created me to be and my relationship with God, through Christ,” then it makes it easier to let go of situations.” [21:38] 

“Part of the process of growing and maturing, is learning to tolerate that emotions won’t kill you.” [26:20]

“Life is suppose to be about the process of growing in the wisdom of the Lord.” [40:55]

“Tim Keller- defines wisdom in a great way. He says, “It’s the competence to deal with the complex realities of life.’” [41:25]

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Sarah Mae