Episode # 4 - A Plane Crash, a Plant Named After My Dead Mom, and a Letter to a Celebrity (Stories & Thoughts on Grief)

In today’s episode I share my stories and thoughts on grief.

Show Notes

Scripture to Encourage:

“Jesus wept.” John 11:35

“You keep track of all my sorrows. You have collected all my tears in your bottle. You have recorded each one in your book.” Psalm 56:8

“...There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away. He who was seated on the throne said, ‘I am making everything new!” Revelation 21:4-5

Quotes:

“This is the gift of grief: The healing comfort experienced through the tender intimacy of shared vulnerability.” (Tweet that) [11:17]

Related:

Jewish Mourning Tradition

How Are You? Life is Painful and Weird (blog post)

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Sarah Mae

Sarah Mae spends her days home-making, home-educating, writing, reading, and drinking salted caramel mochas. Her family embraces life in the beautiful Amish country-side of Pennsylvania. She is the owner of the community site Allume and the co-host of the national Christian women’s social media conference.

Episode #3 - Healing & Wisdom Through the Grieving Process

The Complicated Heart Podcast releases every Tuesday!

In today’s podcast, listen in as counselor Melanie Harding invites to understand the grieving process more fully and how we can find healing and wisdom through it.

(Listen to Episode 1 HERE and Episode 2 HERE)

Show Notes

Highlights:

How Melanie helped me with my anxiety recently [4:05]

What is grief? [6:32]

Why is it so hard for so many of us to face reality? [9:30]

How do we know if we’ve made anxiety our God? [13:27]

Why is it important to mourn our losses? [15:45]

The question we ask every day, whether we know we do or not [24:33]

Where is the goodness of God when terrible things happen? [38:25]

What happens when we don’t grief? [43:16]

Unresolved Childhood Pain [45:45]

How to grief and mourn a loss. [48:15]

Books Mentioned:

Experiencing God Bible Study by Henry & Richard Blackaby

Where is God When it Hurts? by Philip Yancey

Key Scriptures:

"Can a mother forget the baby at her breast and have no compassion on the child she has borne? Though she may forget, I will not forget you!” Isaiah 49:15

“And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.” Romans 8:28

Quotes:

“Grief is the process of letting go of our expectations.” [7:00]

“Grief is the process of facing reality.” [9:06]

“Our dreams are not necessarily Gods dreams for us.” [10:52]

“When we make our dreams into gods, we get into trouble.” [11:26]

“The adventure is to look with anticipation for where God is taking us, even it if takes us away from what we thought our dream would look like. That God’s goodness will lead us into something even better, then when we first thought.” [11:40]

“In Gods economy, grieving leads to wisdom.” [19:31]

“When you can say, “my identity is unchanging, because of who God has created me to be and my relationship with God, through Christ,” then it makes it easier to let go of situations.” [21:38] 

“Part of the process of growing and maturing, is learning to tolerate that emotions won’t kill you.” [26:20]

“Life is suppose to be about the process of growing in the wisdom of the Lord.” [40:55]

“Tim Keller- defines wisdom in a great way. He says, “It’s the competence to deal with the complex realities of life.’” [41:25]

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Sarah Mae

Sarah Mae spends her days home-making, home-educating, writing, reading, and drinking salted caramel mochas. Her family embraces life in the beautiful Amish country-side of Pennsylvania. She is the owner of the community site Allume and the co-host of the national Christian women’s social media conference.

Episode #2 - Healing Through Lament - With Amy Smoker

Amy

Show Notes

Special Guest Amy Smoker:

A pastor’s wife for 15 years and a mother to 5, Amy Smoker believes in encouraging women. She’s a speaker, a lover of words and the Word, an avid reader, and a writer of actual letters with actual stamps. She’d like to say that she has a degree, but Hurricane Katrina washed away her college in her last semester. She’s no stranger to hard or sudden change; she moved nine times in the first ten years of her marriage, has stood on the foundation of her own hurricane-devastated house, and has known untimely loss. She understands that suffering and joy can run side-by-side like rails on the same train track and hopes that her words hold the hands of those who are aching. She counts it a great privilege to inspire and help women recognize the touch of the divine in the ordinary, in the easy, or in the difficult—wherever they might be. For right where we are, there He is.

Highlights:

  • Amy’s first loss and the devastating way she handled it, not knowing what else to do [5:55]

  • Amy’s second big loss [8:00]

  • Amy’s third traumatic loss [13:05]

  • Amy’s fourth crisis [17:12]

  • Amy’s fifth loss [18:43]

  • What Amy has learned through grief and lament [23:08]

  • The pathway to the Lord’s heart [24:30]

  • What Amy has to say to the woman who has suffered great devastation in her life. [39:02]

Key Scripture:

“As a mother comforts her child, so will I comfort you…” Isaiah 66:13

Quotes:

“A key to knowing Jesus, is needing Jesus.” [5:00]

“Grief is letting go of something you once had and that you can no longer have.” [23:25]

“We are not only taught to lament in the scriptures, we are invited to do it, because the Lord knows it is a pathway to His heart.” [24:30]

“Our emotions are the voice of our heart.” [29:54]

“I have never been low enough, that I didn’t have something I knew to be true of the Lord.” [34:18]

“When we experience the Lord through hard times, we come to know Him on a level that we can’t get by reading a book, or listening to a sermon or going to a conference.” [36:13]

Free Resource:

Lament

Sarah Mae

Sarah Mae spends her days home-making, home-educating, writing, reading, and drinking salted caramel mochas. Her family embraces life in the beautiful Amish country-side of Pennsylvania. She is the owner of the community site Allume and the co-host of the national Christian women’s social media conference.

Episode #1: Susan's Story: An Intro to The Complicated Heart

This is the first episode of The Complicated Heart Podcast!

Episode Description: Why is this podcast called The Complicated Heart, and what's it about? In this episode, you'll hear the story of a complicated woman and how the thread of her life wove the lining of this podcast.

Just a heads up: this podcast isn’t for little ears, so make sure you aren’t playing it out loud around your kiddos!

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Listen to Episode 2 HERE!

Sarah Mae

Sarah Mae spends her days home-making, home-educating, writing, reading, and drinking salted caramel mochas. Her family embraces life in the beautiful Amish country-side of Pennsylvania. She is the owner of the community site Allume and the co-host of the national Christian women’s social media conference.